[[UPDATED]] I Need Hugs and Advice.. My Cousin is Missing.
Sat Sep 30, 2006 10:18 pm
I have this cousin, named Sarah. Her 18th birthday was yesterday.
She lived in Fort Lauderdale most of her life, but recently her and her family moved to Georgia in the Blue Ridge Area, about an hour and a half away from Atlanta. I went down and visited her from June 27th to July 6th. In the hotel that we stayed at there was this guy who worked the nightshift as the desk clerk. He was so ugly and weird looking that we named him, "Sex-a-licious" and he kept staring at Sarah.
This is what Sarah looks like, (She was 17 at the time, this is in the Georgia Aquarium, she is the one on the left, I'm on the right.)
She absolutely idolizes me, and I idolize her. She introduced me to Phantom of the Opera, she has an amazing singing voice, it's better than Emmy Rossum's in the movie, she sings each song perfectly.
She's a perfect student and she was about to start college in October at Georgia State University, to become a music teacher.
Her parents are very overprotective, and from freshman year until this summer, she was going out with this guy named Alan, very sweet and he even gave her a promise ring and they were going to get married after college. The last night that we were in the hotel, the room phone rang and it was the desk clerk, telling Sarah to come to the desk for a second. She goes and when she comes back, the guy had given her his number. A month or so later, we were talking on the computer and she told me she was going out with him. I told her, "Cool", but I really thought, "Yuck".
She always wanted to dress like me and be more like me, more adventurous and outgoing, even though I don't think I am that interesting. When I was down in Georgia with her, we tried our best to wear matching or similar outfits, we never got in an arguement and she considered me her best friend. We both loved to read, both loved to talk about boys, and both loved Phantom of the Opera.
Anyway, to get the the life issues part of this story, as I said, yesterday was her 18th birthday. Earlier in the week, I sent a present down to her, and it arrived, luckily on her birthday.
She is my cousin on my father's side, and he has two sisters, One with three sons and the other with Sarah. Also his mother and father are still alive, but divorced and re-married. They all live down in the florida area other than Sarah and her parents, and they flew to Georgia to be with Sarah on her 18th birthday.
So my father recieved a call yesterday night (My mother was at work, she is a nurse and works night shift) and we find out that Sarah ran away, she left a note saying that she was in North Carolina and that she was getting married to the Desk Clerk Man. My Dad accuses me of knowing something and not telling, but I tell him I don't, because I don't, and he hands me the phone. It's my Aunt Diane (Not Sarah's Mother, the other one) and she tells me all they know and tells me if I hear anything to tell her and that she told me that they visited his parents a few nights back and that they were just like the "Beverly Hillbillys", the mother had no teeth and the father was crippled and they lived in a shack with no jobs.
So basically all we knew that she was in North Carolina. Make a note that she just met this guy at the end of June, and now it is the end of September. Three Months.
I tried calling Sarah, but her cell phone service has been disconnected.
Today I got a phone call from my Dad (he wasn't home) and he told me that he got a call from my Aunt Diane again saying that Sarah had called and said that they did get married, and that they were going to New England for the Honeymoon.
But then my Dad was telling me, "Where would they get the money?"
And I told him that I didn't know but I guess it was a retorical question.
You see, when my aunts and uncles were grieving and worrying by the phone and everything, my Grandmother and Jimmy [My step-grandfather] were no where to be found. Jimmy is kind of loaded with cash since his father was the famous Actor Burt Lancaster. And I could tell when I was down there that my Grandmother favoured Sarah highly.
So my Dad and I and probably my aunts assume that Granny paid for this, and is not telling anyone.
This is so not Sarah. She is messing up her life so badly and I feel partially to blame for it. She told me that she wanted to be like me. She told me she wanted to be spontaneous but that she didn't have the courage. And she finally did something spontaneous but it's horrible. I would never do something like this. She is ruining her life so badly and we can't get in contact with her. I wish I could just so I could yell at her then plead for her to come back home. I keep getting yelled at because my Dad and my Brother think I know something when I don't.
Please, if anyone has any comforting words, or just a hug, or some advice for me and my family, please share it with me. I'll continue to update this as soon as I find out more information, so keep checking back. Thank you.
UPDATE: My house recieved a call from her and she talked to my brother, I didn't have a chance to speak with her, because I didn't know that she called until after. Apparently she is with my Grandmother and they are driving up to New York [My state]. I don't know if her husband is there or not and I haven't talked to her yet. Thank you everyone for your kind, comforting words. You've been a big help. Stay tuned for more updates.
She lived in Fort Lauderdale most of her life, but recently her and her family moved to Georgia in the Blue Ridge Area, about an hour and a half away from Atlanta. I went down and visited her from June 27th to July 6th. In the hotel that we stayed at there was this guy who worked the nightshift as the desk clerk. He was so ugly and weird looking that we named him, "Sex-a-licious" and he kept staring at Sarah.
This is what Sarah looks like, (She was 17 at the time, this is in the Georgia Aquarium, she is the one on the left, I'm on the right.)
She absolutely idolizes me, and I idolize her. She introduced me to Phantom of the Opera, she has an amazing singing voice, it's better than Emmy Rossum's in the movie, she sings each song perfectly.
She's a perfect student and she was about to start college in October at Georgia State University, to become a music teacher.
Her parents are very overprotective, and from freshman year until this summer, she was going out with this guy named Alan, very sweet and he even gave her a promise ring and they were going to get married after college. The last night that we were in the hotel, the room phone rang and it was the desk clerk, telling Sarah to come to the desk for a second. She goes and when she comes back, the guy had given her his number. A month or so later, we were talking on the computer and she told me she was going out with him. I told her, "Cool", but I really thought, "Yuck".
She always wanted to dress like me and be more like me, more adventurous and outgoing, even though I don't think I am that interesting. When I was down in Georgia with her, we tried our best to wear matching or similar outfits, we never got in an arguement and she considered me her best friend. We both loved to read, both loved to talk about boys, and both loved Phantom of the Opera.
Anyway, to get the the life issues part of this story, as I said, yesterday was her 18th birthday. Earlier in the week, I sent a present down to her, and it arrived, luckily on her birthday.
She is my cousin on my father's side, and he has two sisters, One with three sons and the other with Sarah. Also his mother and father are still alive, but divorced and re-married. They all live down in the florida area other than Sarah and her parents, and they flew to Georgia to be with Sarah on her 18th birthday.
So my father recieved a call yesterday night (My mother was at work, she is a nurse and works night shift) and we find out that Sarah ran away, she left a note saying that she was in North Carolina and that she was getting married to the Desk Clerk Man. My Dad accuses me of knowing something and not telling, but I tell him I don't, because I don't, and he hands me the phone. It's my Aunt Diane (Not Sarah's Mother, the other one) and she tells me all they know and tells me if I hear anything to tell her and that she told me that they visited his parents a few nights back and that they were just like the "Beverly Hillbillys", the mother had no teeth and the father was crippled and they lived in a shack with no jobs.
So basically all we knew that she was in North Carolina. Make a note that she just met this guy at the end of June, and now it is the end of September. Three Months.
I tried calling Sarah, but her cell phone service has been disconnected.
Today I got a phone call from my Dad (he wasn't home) and he told me that he got a call from my Aunt Diane again saying that Sarah had called and said that they did get married, and that they were going to New England for the Honeymoon.
But then my Dad was telling me, "Where would they get the money?"
And I told him that I didn't know but I guess it was a retorical question.
You see, when my aunts and uncles were grieving and worrying by the phone and everything, my Grandmother and Jimmy [My step-grandfather] were no where to be found. Jimmy is kind of loaded with cash since his father was the famous Actor Burt Lancaster. And I could tell when I was down there that my Grandmother favoured Sarah highly.
So my Dad and I and probably my aunts assume that Granny paid for this, and is not telling anyone.
This is so not Sarah. She is messing up her life so badly and I feel partially to blame for it. She told me that she wanted to be like me. She told me she wanted to be spontaneous but that she didn't have the courage. And she finally did something spontaneous but it's horrible. I would never do something like this. She is ruining her life so badly and we can't get in contact with her. I wish I could just so I could yell at her then plead for her to come back home. I keep getting yelled at because my Dad and my Brother think I know something when I don't.
Please, if anyone has any comforting words, or just a hug, or some advice for me and my family, please share it with me. I'll continue to update this as soon as I find out more information, so keep checking back. Thank you.
UPDATE: My house recieved a call from her and she talked to my brother, I didn't have a chance to speak with her, because I didn't know that she called until after. Apparently she is with my Grandmother and they are driving up to New York [My state]. I don't know if her husband is there or not and I haven't talked to her yet. Thank you everyone for your kind, comforting words. You've been a big help. Stay tuned for more updates.
Last edited by Jenna! on Sun Oct 01, 2006 3:04 pm, edited 3 times in total.
Sat Sep 30, 2006 10:48 pm
*hugs* 
I can't say much, but I least I can give you hugs.
I can't say much, but I least I can give you hugs.
Sat Sep 30, 2006 10:48 pm
Wow must really suck being in that position, but keep your chin up and always hope for the best.
Good luck in getting her back
And also try contacting the police department in wherever she might be, and see if they can do anything at all?
Sat Sep 30, 2006 11:18 pm
I hate to say it, but simply because you didn't like the guy she eloped with doesn't mean she wasn't in love with him- I understand you're upset, but if you're that close to her, you should support her. Her eloping doesn't mean she's ruined her life- would you rather she be unhappy?
For your sake at least, I hope she contacts you further- but really, think about what I said.
For your sake at least, I hope she contacts you further- but really, think about what I said.
Sat Sep 30, 2006 11:29 pm
Lots of hugs for Zega
This must be a very difficult time for you and your family. I cannot imagine having someone I was close with running away without informing me and letting me know everything was okay. I'm not great with advice, but even if I was, I don't think there's really much you can do besides hope that she contacts someone in your family to say where she is and what is going on. For your cousin's sake, I hope she realizes that she has a lot of people that care about her and she lets everyone know that she's alright.
Hugs again Feel free to PM me or IM me if you need to talk further. Chin up Zega. Things will hopefully work out.
This must be a very difficult time for you and your family. I cannot imagine having someone I was close with running away without informing me and letting me know everything was okay. I'm not great with advice, but even if I was, I don't think there's really much you can do besides hope that she contacts someone in your family to say where she is and what is going on. For your cousin's sake, I hope she realizes that she has a lot of people that care about her and she lets everyone know that she's alright.
Hugs again
Feel free to PM me or IM me if you need to talk further. Chin up Zega. Things will hopefully work out.
Sun Oct 01, 2006 6:41 am
I can't offer any advice, but I will be praying for you, your family and Sarah.
Sun Oct 01, 2006 7:12 am
Oh wowzer... I don't really know what to say...
Sun Oct 01, 2006 3:05 pm
Thank you guys, you've been a big help to me.